At the same time, we want a relationship. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday. Until then, we are flexible and open to new information. We are through with the interloper. We complement each other in every way. I tend to think if we are going to apply personality to relationships, we might as well focus on finding people we natually like being around rather than pretending to be something we aren't.
The tricky part of this equation is that both types are a little less relationship-oriented than the serious INTJ.
I chuckled at your comments in number 4. Not every partner has the sort of fun INTJs do in addressing conflicts and emotional needs as puzzles to be analyzed and solved. I want that person in my life who can read me like my thoughts are naked. Relationships with feelers need constant maintenance and spontaneity. Of course, INTJs would be the first to tell you that how we define lazy is entirely relative.